InSecurity Checkpoint

Insecure much?

There are people who just can’t seem to bear seeing others be happy or get ahead in life. The kind of people who choose to see the negative in everything so they can put people down and burst their bubble.

Like, they watch a song or dance number performed by little kids and all they can see are the flaws in the performance.. they’re little kids, for crying out loud! If they can’t find anything to complain about, they’ll turn to the instructor and say in a doubtful, incredulous voice, “Did you really teach those kids?”. Lose-lose situation – they demand perfection but can’t accept it even when it’s right in their face. What I’m trying to point out here is that there are people who are very generous and loud with their criticisms and judgment but are very stingy and mute when it comes to positive feedback and praise. Tell them something good that’s happening in your life, and while other people are quick to congratulate you and share your happiness, they, on the other hand, are quick to make “jokes” dripping with sarcasm and jealousy. Am I being too sensitive? Maybe. But I think we all can differentiate between harmless jokes and double-sided ones.

There are also those who just NEED to one-up everybody in everything. Say you’re just sitting there and chatting about a trip you recently took and they’ll interrupt and be like, “Oh, my brother’s officemate’s sister’s boyfriend took a trip around the world.” Huh? They would dig into the far reaches of their database just to make sure they can one-up everybody else’s story – even if they have to use people they barely or don’t even know!

People like these really annoy me.. but greater than my annoyance is pity for these people. Because the words that come out of a person’s mouth and their behavior is always a result of what’s inside them. So people who always spew forth negativity do so because they are full of negativity inside. And that’s a pitiful way to live – always consumed by bad thoughts and feelings. Sometimes I want to tell them, “I’m really sorry you’re not happy with your life, but please, don’t take it out on me; it’s not my fault.”

In closing, I leave you with these words by Bobby Darin: “Any fool knows that bravado is always a cover-up for insecurity. That’s the truth. And on that note, I’ll say goodnight. God love you.”